A friend of mine is going through a really messy divorce right now.  Her husband was unfaithful and there is a lot of pain and anger that she is dealing with. Unforunately, it's difficult for them to communicate right now without allowing feelings and anger to get in the way - even when dealing with child visitation and other issues that involve their kids.

She has recently started using a great communication tool that allows her and her ex to communicate without arguing and I thought it was such a great idea that it was worth passing on.  The best part is that it's really simple and also produces a written record of communication regarding the kids, should it ever be needed.  

They use a simple notebook that they pass back and forth when they have the children.  She will use it to provide her ex information about the kids that he'll need to know during visitation and he'll write down information about anything important that happened while the kids were with him.  They both keep the information written to things that has to do with the children because both parents know that one or the other could drag it into court one day....

I think this is a great tool to use, especially if you have children that can't yet talk as it allows parent to communicate during divorce even if they are not exactly on the best of terms!

Hopefully, someday, my friend and her ex-husband will get to the point where they can talk to eachother in a civil manner again. At least for now they both know that anything they say won't be nice and it's better for the kids if they don't argue in front of them!