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Children hear the last three words of what we say...
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By:Jennifer_5767familyziporg

Children only hear the last three words of what we say.  As a childhood educator,  I learned this in a training I attended and have found it to be true with my own four children.  So when we say "Please don't run in the house"  children hear, "run in the house" and get confused when they get in trouble for running in the house.  So when talking to your children pay attention to the last three words of what you say,  and this will help you in communicating with your child.

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Kris H. Jun 24, 2008
I agree. I have found that instead of saying, "Don't run around the pool!..." which is ineffective, to replace my words with the action I want to see... "Walk around the pool..." to be more effective. (Praise as soon as they change their behavior!!!) If all you hear is don't do this, don't... don't... it takes time for them to think "o.k. than what SHOULD I be doing???" tell them...everyone will be happier and communicating positively. It is also more respectful to family members...

Cyndee N. Dec 1, 2007
I agree with what Jennifer says and I'll add that our brains process statements in the positive, rather than the negative. For instance, when our teens take the car, if we say "Don't get in an accident" their brain focuses on "get in an accident" It also tells them we don't think much of their driving ability. If we rephrase it to the positve side and say: "Drive safely" or "Be safe!" Their brain hears exactly that AND it tells them we care about them as a person. "Don't run in the house" is heard as "Run in the house". But "Please walk in the house" means just that! :)


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